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Friday, July 3, 2015
Buhari tells APC: put your personal interests in your pocket
"What ever your personal interests, put them in your pocket. Let APC work. Let the system work. I appeal to you to accept the superiority of the party. I cannot confine myself in Sambisa forest and refuse to participate in the meeting because I respect the superiority of the party.” he saidSenator Saaraki and Hon Yakubu Dogara are present at the meeting while Bola Tinubu is absent.
Photo: Prince William flies economy
APC NEC meeting: Buhari, Saraki, Dogara attend, Tinubu, Akande absent
NEW VIDEO: Kcee 'Love Boat' ft Diamond Platinumz
Five Star Music is proud to debut the brand new music video for Kcee's latest single – the midtempo R&B jam “Love boat” with Afrobeats sensibilities. Accompanying the outstanding single, is the equally stunning music video. Directed by Nick Roux for Molotov Cocktail, the video for ‘Love Boat’ was shot on location in South Africa and brings Kcee's 'Love Boat' theme further to life. Enjoy..
Relationship tips: 4 smart ways to resolve arguments with your partner
According to recent studies, the feeling of both love and hate is totally normal because the the same area of your brain that activates mushy feelings is also responsible for producing rage - which is why sometimes you feel so much love for your partner and other times you want to scratch their eyes out of anger.
Relationship expert, Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D., author of Make Up, Don't Break up says "Arguing can be a sign that your relationship is strong and passionate, and that you're comfortable enough to express negative feelings without fear of losing each other in the process". This means there are right ways to resolve arguments with your partner.
Jennifer Benjamin of Women's Health Daily lists 4 major ways couples can resolve arguments:
- Use Your Ears, Not Your Mouth: If you find yourself sounding like a playlist on repeat, try pressing pause. "Research has found that unhappy couples tend to repeat themselves out of desperation to be heard, which isn't productive. They wind up talking at each other instead of having a dialogue," says Benjamin Karney, Ph.D., co director of the Relationship Institute at the University of California at Los Angeles.
- Don't Make It Personal: In the heat of an argument, the gloves often come off. The problem, notes Rita DeMaria, Ph.D., director of relationship education at the Council for Relationships in Philadelphia, is that once nasty insults start flying around and feelings are hurt, nothing will be resolved. Also, according to a study conducted at the University of Chicago, our brains have a built-in "negativity bias," which causes us to be more responsive to unpleasant news. Why? Back in caveman times, our survival as a species was dependent on our ability to stay out of danger, so our brains developed protective systems that made it impossible to overlook the bad. That's why you need to minimize the negative impact of your words. Remember, the goal isn't to upset each other, it's to resolve an issue. So instead of exclaiming "You're so lazy!" tell him how his actions affect you. Try, "I get tired of planning everything for us and wish you would take over sometimes."
- Stop Trying to Figure Out Who Wins: It may be a lovers' quarrel, but victory isn't declared when one of you staggers back to the bedroom, clutching your wounded heart in your hands. "People often fixate on who's right, which distracts them from finding a solution," says Karney. "Conflicts are resolved quickly and more successfully when neither party feels compelled to proclaim, 'See that? I'm right!' " For starters, find something you both can agree on (even if it means admitting that, OK, maybe you do send him a few too many texts while he's out with his friends). Then focus on finding a happy medium. For example, say, "I know it annoys you when I bombard you with text messages, but I get worried when you take forever to reply. Let's find a way to handle this so that we're both comfortable." This way, there's much less toddler-like head butting.
- Remember You're a Couple: We know this is a tall order, but if you can express positive emotions during an argument, you'll have a more satisfying relationship two or three years down the road, according to a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family. "When couples are able to communicate closeness, affection (for example, a touch on the arm or the cheek), and even humor in the midst of an argument, the impact of harsher words is diminished," Karney says. "Positive interactions say that you still like and love each other, and you're committed to the relationship even in the worst of times." And you can even go a step further by incorporating some playful ribbing: Couples who lightly tease each other during a conflict wind up feeling more in love when the disagreement finally blows over, according to a study conducted at the University of California at Berkeley. It may mean using funny nicknames for each other or making a self-deprecating joke. Just steer clear of comments that may wound your egos, such as negative remarks about intelligence, personal hygiene, or bedroom behavior. It comes down to this: Even though your guy has the ability to drive you up the wall sometimes, at the end of the day you really do love the big lug—and if you can remember this during the toughest moments together, your bond will remain strong.
Boko Haram war: US to provide lethal weapons to Nigerian military
The United States government has restated its commitment to assist Nigeria in the fight against Boko Haram and rescue the Chibok girls.
U.S. Assistant Secretary of State for African Affairs, Linda Thomas-Greenfield, and the Commander United States Africa Command (USAAFRICOM), General David Rodriguez, made this known in a joint online press conference.
Thomas-Greenfield said President Muhammadu Buhari is going to be in Washington later this month for meetings with the administration.
"And we will have discussions with him on what we can do to continue to assist Nigeria and their effort to fight against Boko Haram.
"Part of that discussion will be how we can provide the equipment and support that Nigerians require.
"Part of what we will do is to engage with the new government, we will have discussion on what we can do to continue to assist Nigeria in the fight against Boko Haram.
"Human rights are an important value for the United States and in any place that we are providing lethal weapons.
"We want to know that the miiltaries that we are providing those weapons to do not use that in a way that violates the human rights of ordinary civilians so we will have that discussion moving forward,” she said.
Thomas-Greenfield said the U.S. government will discuss these issues with the Nigerian government, adding that they will also discuss how to better prepare Nigerian military to support communities.
"And build confidence in communities and not be victimised by the efforts of the military in the fight against Boko Haram.’’
Thomas-Green also said that the rescue of the abducted Chibok girls is high priority for the U.S. government.
"This has been an extremely high priority for the U.S. government to assist in bringing these girls home and also hundreds of other girls and young boys who were forcefully abducted by Boko Haram.
"We will not let up on our efforts; we will continue to work with the government.’’
She commended Buhari and his wife for visiting their families and letting them know they have not been forgotten.
On his part, Rodriguez said the U.S. has continued to share intelligence with the Nigerian leadership, about the Chibok girls as well as other people who have been taken by Boko Haram.
"We will continue to do that and pursue the effort of rescuing the girls.’’
The commander said the U.S. will continue to promote peace and security in Africa as a priority and that was why the command exists.
He said the command supports peace keeping efforts and strengthens the capacity of Africa military through partnership.
"The United States government is commitment to assisting African countries as they build their capacity to counter terrorism, which AFRICOM is key to providing such assistance.
"In Nigeria we continue to share intelligence with the Nigerian military in the fight against insurgency.’’
The officials further expressed concern that growing extremist violence undermines the peace and stability that Africa needs to strive and to prosper.
Former Miss Nigeria Rita Anuku and sister of Nollywood actor Hank Anuku, dies
Photos: 9 year old Nigerian girl writes a book on Terrorism
9 year old girl Splendour Joe Abisoye has written a book on terrorism which she titled 'Effects of Terrorism on Children'. Little Miss Splendour presented her book to the Director, Defence Information, Major General Chris Olukolade in Abuja yesterday July 2nd.
In the book, Splendour shared her experience when she visited an IDP camp in the North and what some of the children there told her. Splendour was accompanied to the Army Headquarters by her parents Rev. and Mrs Joe King Abisoye. Receiving the book, Gen Olukolade applauded her for writing it. More photos after the cut...
Couple who were married for 75 years died just hours apart as they held hands in bed
The pair spent their lives in love after becoming boyfriend and girlfriend when they were only eight years old.
As Mr Toczko's condition quickly declined, Mrs Toczko's own health took a turn for the worse. The couple had always said they wished to die 'in their own bed, holding hands, in each other's arms'.
"She kept asking us, 'What is today, what is today?' We said it was June. She said it's June 29th, and June 29th is their 75th wedding anniversary," said Toczko-Cushman.
The family went along with it, buying balloons and flowers to celebrate, in bed.
"And we said happy anniversary, and my mother was thrilled to death because it was their anniversary and she knew that he was going and that they had made it to 75 years," said Toczko-Cushman.
'I told my mother he was gone,'. 'She hugged him and she said, "See this is what you wanted. You died in my arms and I love you. I love you, wait for me, I'll be there soon".
The family left, leaving the couple to share their final moments together.
"Even the hospice nurse said it was the most incredible thing to see the two of them taking those last breaths together," Toczko-Cushman said.
"I knew she wasn't go to last too much longer," Toczko said
"And he died in her arms, which is exactly what he wanted. I went in there and told my mother he was gone; she hugged him and she said, 'See this is what you wanted. You died in my arms and I love you. I love you, wait for me, I'll be there soon,'" said Toczko-Cushman. "It was tough," said Toczko.
The couple who were married for 75 years have fulfilled their final wish to die in each other's arms after they passed away clutching hands, within hours of each other, in their bed.
About 24 hours later, it became time for Jeanette to join her husband.
"They both entered the pearly gates holding hands," said Toczko.
The Toczkos have since been buried.
Alexander Toczko was a World War II veteran.
'I don't mind playing in a club filled with gays' - DJ Jimmy Jatt
"Honestly, I don’t mind playing in a gay bar or performing in a show filled with gays. It is a free world, you know. Why should I bother about anybody’s sexual preferences or relationships? It’s not my business to bother about what they do with their bodies in private or to themselves. For me, this is all about business. My job is to provide entertainment and to make people happy. I am neither gay nor bisexual. Everybody knows I am happily married with children. But, if by any means somebody comes to me with any funny intentions, that is when I will make them see the other side of me,” he told Punch.
Chris Brown stops his $10,000 per month child support payments to his daughter's Mum before he even started
The agreement was set to start on July 1, but it fell apart when Brown sought a visitation with Royalty this week only to learn that she was with his mother Joyce Hawkins in Virginia.
This made him mad enough to say he wouldn't pay her the $10,000 because he is currently not in good terms with his own mother. The photos he shared on his IG page in April of Roylaty and his Mum has since been deleted off his page.
Thursday, July 2, 2015
Photos: Iphone case that looks like a hand gun now being sold
Retired New Jersey state trooper and firearms instructor Al Della Fave told CNN Money:
“Most kids carry their cellphone in their back pocket and if someone reaches for it, in my mind they're reaching for a gun. The first thing they're going to see as it's coming up is the trigger guard and the butt of the gun. This doesn't seem like a good idea at all to me.”
US man applies to marry a second wife following legalization of gay marriage
Nathan Collier and his wives Victoria and Christine applied at the Yellowstone County Courthouse in Billings on Tuesday in an attempt to legitimize their polygamous marriage. Collier said he plans to sue if the application is denied.
"It's about marriage equality," Collier told The Associated Press Wednesday. "You can't have this without polygamy."
County clerk officials initially denied Collier's application, then said they would consult with the county attorney's office before giving him a final answer, Collier said.
Yellowstone County chief civil litigator Kevin Gillen said he is reviewing Montana's bigamy laws and expected to send a formal response to Collier by next week.
"I think he deserves an answer," Gillen said, but added his review is finding that "the law simply doesn't provide for that yet."
The Supreme Court's ruling on Friday made gay marriages legal nationwide. Chief Justice John Roberts said in his dissent that people in polygamous relationships could make the same legal argument that not having the opportunity to marry disrespects and subordinates them.
Collier, 46, said that dissent inspired him. He owns a refrigeration business in Billings and married Victoria, 40, in 2000. He and his second wife, Christine, had a religious wedding ceremony in 2007 but did not sign a marriage license to avoid bigamy charges, he said.
Collier said he is a former Mormon who was excommunicated for polygamy and now belongs to no religious organization. He said he and his wives hid their relationship for years, but became tired of hiding and went public by appearing on the reality cable television show "Sister Wives."
The three have seven children of their own and from previous relationships.
"My second wife Christine, who I'm not legally married to, she's put up with my crap for a lot of years. She deserves legitimacy," he said.
Collier said he sent an email asking the ACLU of Montana to represent him in a possible lawsuit. ACLU legal director Jim Taylor said he has not seen the request.
Taylor said he has no opinion on Collier's claims, though the Supreme Court decision on gay marriage "is about something very different."
Anne Wilde, a co-founder of the polygamy advocacy organization Principle Voices located in Utah, said Collier's application is the first she's heard of in the nation, and that most polygamous families in Utah are not seeking the right to have multiple marriage licenses.
"Ninety percent or more of the fundamentalist Mormons don't want it legalized, they want it decriminalized," Wilde said.
A federal judge struck down parts of Utah's anti-polygamy law two years ago, saying the law violated religious freedom by prohibiting cohabitation. Bigamy is still illegal.
The state has appealed the ruling, and the case is pending in the 10th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals.
Wilde said most polygamous families are satisfied with the judge's ruling and believe taking it further to include multiple marriage licenses would bring them under the unwanted jurisdiction of the government.
But she said the Supreme Court's decision on gay marriage should strengthen their chance of winning the appeal.
"We hope the Supreme Court decision will show the direction the nation is going," she said. "It's more liberal, it's more understanding about people forming the families the way they want."
Source: AP
Boko Haram gunned down 97 people praying in mosques during Ramadan
The attack Wednesday night on the town of Kukawa came the day after the Islamic extremist group attacked a village 35 kilometers (22 miles) away and killed another 48 men and boys, according to witnesses who counted the dead.
Gava said his group's fighters in Kukawa said some militants also broke into people's homes, killing women and children as they prepared the evening meal.The people of Kukawa were in several mosques, praying ahead of breaking their daylong fast, when the extremists attacked. They killed 97 people, mainly men, said self-defense spokesman Abbas Gava and a senior government official who spoke on condition of anonymity because he is not authorized to give information to reporters.
Kukawa is 180 kilometers (110 miles) northeast of Maiduguri, the biggest city in northeast Nigeria and the birthplace of Boko Haram.
On Tuesday night, the extremists invaded the village of Mussaram, ordered men and women to separate and then opened fire on the men and boys, witnesses said.
"A total of 48 males died on the spot while 17 others escaped with serious injuries," said Maidugu Bida, a self-defense official? based in nearby Monguno who helped bury the dead.
On Monday, two suicide bombers blew themselves up prematurely in a village outside Maiduguri just an hour before the arrival of Nigeria's Vice President Yemi Osinbanjo. He visited some of the hundreds of thousands of people displaced by the 5-year-old Islamic uprising that has killed more than 13,000 people and driven 1.5 million from their homes.
Some of those killed in attacks in the past month had only just returned to rebuild towns and villages recaptured this year from Boko Haram by a multinational army.
Scott Disick seen frolicking with another woman while on vacation in France
According to Hollywood Life, the father-of-3 has slept with over 100 women behind Kourtney’s back during their 9-year relationship!. Kourtney has accused him several times of infidelity & he's always said he'd do better but it doesn't look like it.
At one point, the father-of-three wrapped his arm around her and she then fed him food off her plate.They were also seen reclining on a lounger and she tipped water into his mouth from a wine glass.
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| Kourtney with their oldest child, Mason in LA yesterday |
Tyga caught lying about his dismal album sales...now the butt of internet jokes
After news of the album's dismal sales began to circulate online, Tyga claimed the numbers were low because he had given the album away for free. But people called him out, saying it's a lie, that they saw the album for sale on iTunes for $9.99 but when they went back to buy it it was already gone.
Tyga is trending around the world for his dismal album sales with many making fun of him. The Kardashian Kurse. He was doing well as a rapper, now nobody is taking him seriously, nobody is buying his music and many are calling him a paedophile. *sigh*. See some tweets after the cut...
Tyga claimed the album was free..
The say it's a lie
Some tweets are saying "Kylie bought all the 2,200 copies" to "Blac Chyna sold more waist trainers than Tyga sold albums".
They are showing him no mercy at all on Twitter...
APC and NASS crises: Atiku says its time to stop the blame game and work together
In a statement released this evening, Atiku who is currently in Saudi Arabia for the lesser Hajj said it is time for members of the party to stop the blame game and work together for the unity, cohesion and harmony of the party. He added that he is concerned that after winning the elections, APC is now engulfed in internal crises. The statement after the cut...
Former Vice President and chieftain of APC, Atiku Abubakar has urged leaders of the APC to shift from extreme positions to a centrist one for the interest of democracy and the party, the new administration and the country at large.
The counsel of the former Vice President comes against the backdrop of the APC NEC meeting in Abuja on Friday, 3 July.
A statement released by his media office in Abuja on Thursday, 2 July quoted the former Vice President as calling for the concentration of positive energies on building unity, cohesion and harmony among party leaders and other stakeholders.
"We can resolve our differences when our leaders individually and collectively shift ground from extreme positions and move to the centre in the interest of our party and our country."
Atiku, who is unavoidably outside the country to perform Lesser Hajj (Umrah) in Saudi Arabia, said that he is deeply concerned that, soon after capturing power, the APC is torn apart at a time more energy are needed to attend to the objectives of the change agenda for which it was voted into power.
The former Vice President said it was high time the party overcame its current crisis of confidence arising from the National Assembly election of principal officers.
He explained that the current blame games targeted at individuals was an unnecessary diversion of energies at the expense of the urgency of the mission of the party to make life better for Nigerians.
According to the former Vice President, the vilification of individual party leaders and members in the face of challenges facing the country was painful to him, adding that the party should learn the lessons and move ahead.
While restating his commitment to the party and its change agenda, the former Vice President advise the party leaders not to allow people of bad faith to fuel division and acrimony among the party, adding that all positive energies should be directed towards sustaining the morale of the voters who look forward to the APC to make their lives better.
He reminded party leaders that any division could be exploited at the expense of the party. He extended his goodwill to the party for successful deliberations and assured the party of continued support and loyalty at all times.
Atiku Media Office
61 Ebitu Ukiwe Street
Jabi
Abuja
Nigeria.
A statement released by his media office in Abuja on Thursday, 2 July quoted the former Vice President as calling for the concentration of positive energies on building unity, cohesion and harmony among party leaders and other stakeholders.
"We can resolve our differences when our leaders individually and collectively shift ground from extreme positions and move to the centre in the interest of our party and our country."
Atiku, who is unavoidably outside the country to perform Lesser Hajj (Umrah) in Saudi Arabia, said that he is deeply concerned that, soon after capturing power, the APC is torn apart at a time more energy are needed to attend to the objectives of the change agenda for which it was voted into power.
The former Vice President said it was high time the party overcame its current crisis of confidence arising from the National Assembly election of principal officers.
He explained that the current blame games targeted at individuals was an unnecessary diversion of energies at the expense of the urgency of the mission of the party to make life better for Nigerians.
According to the former Vice President, the vilification of individual party leaders and members in the face of challenges facing the country was painful to him, adding that the party should learn the lessons and move ahead.
While restating his commitment to the party and its change agenda, the former Vice President advise the party leaders not to allow people of bad faith to fuel division and acrimony among the party, adding that all positive energies should be directed towards sustaining the morale of the voters who look forward to the APC to make their lives better.
He reminded party leaders that any division could be exploited at the expense of the party. He extended his goodwill to the party for successful deliberations and assured the party of continued support and loyalty at all times.
Atiku Media Office
61 Ebitu Ukiwe Street
Jabi
Abuja
Nigeria.
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